“I will not be the person you settle for just because you cannot have her.” — Amy March (Little Women)
Being alone hurts, but there is something far more agonizing: being chosen not for who you are, but because someone else isn’t available. Love is meant to be wholehearted, not a consolation prize.
Love is scary, because what if they’re only with me because I’m here and she’s not?
The fear of being someone’s second choice can eat away at your soul, leaving you questioning every gesture, every word, every glance. Am I enough, or am I just a stand-in for someone else’s absence?
Dating in this generation is considered hard, and for that very reason, many tend to settle. They convince themselves that this person, this relationship, must be “the one.”
But if they were truly the one, would you need to convince yourself of it?
Love doesn’t require persuasion. It doesn’t need to be rationalized or forced into existence. It simply is. If you have to talk yourself into believing it, then perhaps it’s not love at all, but a compromise disguised as comfort.
Don’t choose me because it’s easy, because I’m here, or because she’s not. I refuse to be the person you convince yourself to love out of convenience or circumstance. I deserve more than to be the second choice, the backup plan, the consolation for a heart that longs for someone else.
If your heart isn’t fully mine, don’t try to make it fit. Don’t force yourself to stay just because it feels like the right thing to do. I want to be loved fiercely, wholly, and without hesitation — not out of obligation or the fear of being alone.
I urge you to seek the love that sets your soul on fire, even if it means we part ways. Don’t settle for me if your heart belongs elsewhere. I’d rather endure the pain of letting go than live with the quiet agony of knowing I’m not truly what you want.
Love is too precious to be diluted by doubt or compromise. So, if I’m not your first choice, your only choice, let me go. Let me find someone who loves me with the same intensity I give, and you — find the love that makes your heart race, that leaves no room for settling.
I won’t be your compromise. Even if it kills me, I’d rather wait for a love that’s undeniable than settle for something less.
